"Connection"?? Just because I shave my head doesn't turn me in to Dr Phil! I'm a Kiwi - we don't analyse relationship crap, we just get on with it. Rory likes being told what to do and I like having him do it. That doesn't mean he's a mindless automaton and I'm a lazy autocrat. We have our disputes and get pissed off with each other just like any other couple but the connection that will always keep us together is that I love him and he loves me. We're a regular couple - but we just happen to have more whips, leather, rubber, ballstretchers, nipple clamps, electro gear and butt plugs.